While walking with my friend today I listened to her concern regarding  her child. I was struck by the fact that as a parent we are often burden by the idea that our job is to help our children avoid problems.  However,  I don’t think that is our job.  As parents, we work  to give our children the tools they need to deal with their problems and differences. We are shaped by our struggles which form us into the complex beings we are.  Differences define who we are and shape our desires and needs,  so isn’t giving your child the tools to deal with differences and problems the most important gift a parent can give their child?