Until I found out what an important role small talk can play in life, I was not a big fan. Some people are very good at it, politicians or sales people for example. Small talk is the initial conversation American’s use to establish contact and break the ice.
Did you know that other countries like Russia do not engage in small talk? Well, that is great, I’ll move to Russia. Except, it turns out ‘small talk’ actually improves the quality of life. Without “small talk” we are even more disconnected. How are you doing? Turns into a litany of complaints or simple no comment. I mean what else is there to say. Well, it turns out all those social niceties help us to have positive relations with each other. My Russian friend told me that in Russia people seem unhappy and dour. They only say what they mean. No, “I’m fine. How are you today? It’s a beautiful day?” In our society, “small talk” helps not only to break the ice, but serves to help us connect with each other. Ultimately, our success in life is determined by how well we learn to use small talk.
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